As  I sit here seething this evening (not at anyone, mind you, at a website that has locked me out of my account for some unknown reason, and it is not even a website I want to be on, but one I have to be on to fill out a questionnaire for Mike’s insurance that is due this week) I am reminded of something I have said over and over to myself lately, “it is what it is.”

There are certain things in life that we can’t change no matter how hard we try.

I can’t change the fact that this website locked me out and other than a call to the company tomorrow there is nothing I can do about it tonight. It is what it is.

I can’t change the fact that even though I had stuff to do at work today, I had a sick daughter that needed me more. It is what it is.

I can’t change the fact that my job is going to be impacted by other people and whether or not they have done their job. It is what it is.

There are certain things that we can change. We can decide not to scream at the computer when a website locks us out. We can make the best of a day spent at home with a sick child. We can decide to help a co-worker with their part of the job so that our part goes smoother.

But what I need to remember right now is to make good choices and fix/help/change the things I can, and not get frustrated about the things that I can’t. Because sometimes, it is what it is and that can’t be changed.

What areas of your life do you need to be reminded about these things today?